Being best at your job may be your goal or ambition,
however, when it comes to parenting, things may not go as smooth as you like.
For instance, things can get messy when children go for a ride on the cars with remote control. The main purpose of highlighting this point is to make the
parents realize that perfection in parenting is hard to achieve, but if you are
determined to do it, you will have to follow the strategies in the right order.
But it may require a high level of tolerance and patience to achieve high goals
you set for yourself.
Stop Delaying Things
Some people have the tendency to put off things if you are
one of those parents; you may have the deeper problems than your think. For
instance, parents belonging to this category may wait for things to go in their
favor and if you continue to do that, they can lose the importance of taking
initiatives. In other words, if you are not taking the measures to improve your
parenting and you think that things will get slow for you, you will be wasting
the time that could be utilized to do something productive.
Choose Affection
If you pay attention to your daily routine, you may notice
that you are constantly making choices between doing things, for instance, the
choice to spend time with family over time at work. If you choose family over
work, it will help you to demonstrate your feeling for them and the level to
which you prioritize them. If your child asks for more time with you, you will
have to make a choice, it may be critical but if you train yourself to do the
right things, it can make or break the nature of your relationship with
children. For example, if you learn to manage work with family and change the
work timings, you can succeed at building a strong bond with children.
Control Fear
In many instances, people let fear take charge of the mind,
for instance, if you are interested in socializing, fear in your head may
discourage you. However, if you learn to take charge or snub the negative
feeling, it can make you fearless. The same fear dictates the parental choices of
parents, for instance, if you fear for the future of your child, you may become
authoritarian or you may stop them from trying new things if they take risks.
This is not to say the natural tendency of the parents to protect children is
not good, however, if you let fear define your life choices, it can destroy
your relationship with children. However, encouraging children to do new things
in a safe environment is a good approach.
Express your Feelings
If you want to control the negative feeling in your head,
the best approach is to start expressing positive feelings for your children.
The idea is to increase the number of positive feelings so that it will be
reflected in your thought and actions. In the same manner, the children will
get to know your love for them; it directly contributes to making them feel
loved and secure. The same rules can be applied to yourself to boost your ego
in the best manner. If you can learn to love yourself and give priority, it
will be translated in your relations with children and friends.
Changing the Internal Mindset
If you feel frustrated all the time and expect to achieve
transformational results in your relations with children, you will be highly
disappointed. This has got to with the internal health of the person, for
instance, if you do not feel good, you cannot love the children or show
kindness to them no matter how hard you try. This is why if you want to make a
change or achieve perfection in your relations with children, you will have to
start from the mindset responsible for driving your thoughts and actions. All
those parents who are good at his step can easily make changes in their
parenting style in terms of upgrading their relationship with children.
Forgiveness
If your children make mistakes, it is okay to forgive them
rather than holding on to the grudges. The problem with grudges is that it can
affect your internal health in the negative ways. The same rule can be applied
to other family members and when you commit mistakes. However, if you blame
yourself or worse punish yourself for every single mistake you commit, you will
realize that it will make you an impatient person in addition to making you
angry at yourself. This is also related to the feeling of compassion you have
for others and yourself. If you are still doubtful, you can try it on the
experimental basis to test it for yourself and to find out if it will bring the
desired impact in your life or not.
Make Concessions
Making mistake is a natural part of life; however, if you
know the ways of fixing or amending the problems, it can make your life better
than others. Similarly, take it as the opportunity to work on the weak areas in
your parenting. Children can blame you for various things, it may make you
angry, but if you can find ways of amending it, it will act as the points of
healing for the family. The value of apologizing is linked to the point about
making mistakes, it will help to convey the message that you love children and
are willing to take steps to work on the relationship.
Embrace Imperfection
It may seem hard to do but you will have to internalize the
fact that perfection is possible in many things, but if you try to make your
children perfect, it will make you strict and children may not like it.
Likewise, if you expect to be perfect at everything you do, it will make you a
fussy person. Therefore, try to give best and learn to enjoy time with
children.
